As requested, my first “life experience post!” ENJOY!! 
I wish I could pick the brain of males to figure out, what the hell are they thinking!!!! They say us women are crazy, but you men are too! I guess you can call it the battle of venus vs. mars. There is so much confusion between the two, no wonder so many of us are still single (while the majority of us say we want to be single, you know you wish you had someone to hold you at night). Here is my first major battle of venus vs. mars:
I have known this guy for years and we consider ourselves friends. Well one year when the opportunity presented itself to be more than friends, I turned the chance down. That was my boy. Without going into too much detail, let’s just say the flirtation game has continued on and off since. And it’s not like we flirt in hiding; it’s in front of our friends, out in public as if we’re together. People have even asked, “are you two talking” and the answer has always been NO. But the real question is why didn’t we ever talk? If we flirted for YEARS AND I finally gained a crush, why didn’t the situation ever move past the friend stage? Yes, I know, he didn’t want a girlfriend, but I was good enough to cuddle with, kiss in public, hold hands, etc as if we were a couple. I know I’m wifey material, so what makes me not qualified enough to talk to? Was I not worth the chance of finding happiness or being heartbroken? And who isn’t to say you wouldn’t hurt me either? Or is it about sex??
I know I know, I’m rambling on and on, but these are the questions females ask ourselves time and time again. We seem to always get caught up in situations where everything seems innocent at first and when feelings become involved, why do things have to stay the same?
No Commitment Necessary
Ladies, here is your answer:
No matter how great of a woman you are, if a man is not ready to be in a committed relationship and settle down, he isn’t going to change his mind because you are a great woman. It all comes down to his frame of mind and where he is at that point. And I can tell you from experience, right now, there are plenty of 24-26 year olds NOT looking for relationships. We women know we are wifey material and have everything to offer, but if he isn’t ready, there isn’t anything we can do. Also, if he doesn’t view you as THE great woman he sees himself being with, he isn’t going to settle down with you either. I know it sounds harsh and hurts, but it’s the truth. So when you’re dealing with a guy and things aren’t moving forward, you can only be mad at yourself for sticking around and thinking something is going to change regardless if you’re wifey material. You have to live your life too; LET GO & MOVE ON! Just know that if it’s meant to be, you’ll find each other when the time is right and you’re BOTH ready!
