I was talking to one of my girls the other day and she mentioned how she has given up on guys. I guess you could say she’s tired of them being inconsistent. There was this one guy she was talking to at the beginning of the summer; he would fly her down to where he was to visit, he would call, they would spend weekends together. Let’s just say he was putting in work. All of a sudden, at the end of the summer, he falls back. He isn’t around as much & doesn’t call as often. Now most of you would say, sounds like a summer fling. Summer is now over so let’s move on. And I pretty much gave her the same advice, if he is no longer putting in the effort and you feel like you’re doing too much, time to let it go and move on. ”But there is one problem,” she said. “The sex is LIFE CHANGING!!!!”
Those are her words, not mine lol. I told her it always comes down to the sex! I guess if it wasn’t life changing, she would’ve moved on by now and just forgot about the guy but oh no, she “likes” him and it’s soooooo amazing. Then I thought, it always comes down to the “male ego” (that’s what we’ll call it lol). You can be the smartest woman in the world, but if he knows what he’s doing, you’ll walk around like a lost puppy looking for her owner, not knowing what to do with yourself; do you move on or wait around for him because you can’t let THAT go?? Somehow good judgment always gets thrown out the window!! SMH
But don’t get me wrong, it’s not just females that fall into the EGO trap. Guys can get wiped too! What ever happened to mind over matter people?!?! Believe me, I’m sure it’s life changing, but is it worth the stress of not knowing if he/she will come around again; is it worth having more battles in the “relationship” than good times, etc?? I DON’T THINK SO!!! I know it’s a hard thing to do, but it’s ok to let things go and move on. I’m sure there will be better egos down the road that bring the entire package: a great ego and has the desire to be with you because they are genuinely interested. Let’s not fall for the ego trap; it seems to get us all too often!