I have to admit one of my closest friends sparked the topic of this blog. She finally broke up with her boyfriend of 3 years. This was a on again off again relationship that lasted WAY TOO LONG! If she wasn’t with him, she always felt the need to have a guy in her life even if he treated her like crap (yea she’s going to hate me for writing this but she’ll get over it. LOVE YOU! ) Her reason was “I don’t like to be alone…I need someone to always be around” That’s such a sad statement.
Then I thought about another friend of mine who was stuck on her ex for a LONG time (but clearly that was a toxic relationship because it’s over and he acts like you don’t exist. Yes I can admit, guys mess up sometimes and act like jerks. There are some in the bunch. But the other part of the equation is that females out here these days to not have self love. How can you expect to be in a healthy, drama free relationship if you don’t love yourself first????
If you don’t have confidence in who you are and love the person that God made you, how can you expect to be with someone who is going to respect you, put your needs before yours and treat you like the queen you are meant to be? It amazes me how soooo many women feel like men are dogs and doing so much wrong, but they fail to realize, you don’t love yourself! And because you don’t love yourself and respect yourself, you stay around to “deal” with the cheating, drama, disrespect, etc !
When are going to learn to love ourselves, flaws and all?? Once there is love for ourselves, we can weed out all of the drama and bull and not waste time on people who don’t deserve your time and energy. Everyday I’m learning to love my flaws and all….when will you???
