How soon is too soon to get into a relationship? A close friend of mine had been dating a guy for 2 weeks and on day number 15, she told us that the guy she has been seeing is now her boyfriend. Excuse me, did you say BOYFRIEND??? You do realize, you’ve only known this person for 15 days. Do you even know his last name?? I’m just saying…..
Most people usually talk, date (whatever you want to call it) for about 3-4 months before they decide to take things to the next level. Can you really say that you’ve connected with a personal on a deep enough level to make them your boyfriend or girlfriend after 2 weeks? How do you know after such a short period of time that you really want to make things long-term. Yes at our age, when we enter into a relationship, we are ultimately saying we want to be in that relationship long-term.
Is the saying really true, “when it’s right, you just know.” I mean we hear about people all the time getting married after 6 or less months of dating. All I can say in this situation is that I really do hope it works out…
As for me, someone’s going to have to date me for at least 3 months before I decide to make you my boo! You aren’t going to know enough about me after 15 days to decide if you can really stand to be around me and I’m sure as hell not going to know if I want to really be in a committed relationship after such a short period of time. You’ll be lucky if I remember your name after 2 weeks!
December 4th, 2009 on 10:40 am
Keri I totaly agree. I was dated Ryan 6 months before I even considered calling him my “boyfriend”. Not only is 15 days not long enough to know someone but my how is someone going to know that they are truly able to tolerate me…..as we all know, I am not a “walk in the park”.
Girls just need to chill, we are young and have plenty of time to get into a serious relationship. The “honey moon faze does not last forever…trust me!!!!!
December 4th, 2009 on 10:44 am
Funny…I don’t think relationships should be put on a schedule or timeline. If it feels right, then go with those feelings. Hindering your emotions will only lead to turmoil within yourself or in your relationship. As long as you and your partner are open and honest with one another, there are no reason not to pursue something further. Granted, 2 weeks is, indeed, quick. But there’s no harm in going with the flow and seeing where everything takes you. If you get hurt, then so be it.
“It is better to have loved and lost, then never to have loved at all.”
The pain and distress you might feel from a failed attempt will only help you learn and grow. You won’t know what you truely want and deserve until you’ve experienced the exact opposite. Relationships are trial and error. Timing may be a factor but it doesn’t have to play a big a part if you don’t let it.
It’s all about the connection you and the other person share. There are couples who have dated for years and are miserable as a married unit. There are also couple who dated for mere months, even weeks, and have been happily married for years.
See where the journey takes you and don’t go beyond your comfort level at the time. When it feels right, comfortable, and natural, I say go with it.
December 7th, 2009 on 9:01 pm
Relationships are funny, I think there are a couple of bad reasons why people couple up too quickly, sometimes people are quick to put labels on their situations to claim ownership or stake claim so-to-speak on their partner. People often enter relationships because they are seeking to fufill something they are lacking, often they meet someone who possesses a quality or qualities that make them feel on top of the world. Ideally its not the amout of time but the quality of time spent with your significant other in a variety of settings that will reveal his/her true qualities and help in deciding if you know them well enough to pursue a relationship with.
January 20th, 2010 on 11:08 pm
i some what agree…but like steph said love has no time! and look how many relationships crumble after people invest alot of years and energy and they still might not work out…sometimes as strong women we put up all these walls and standards ( im not saying lower what you want in a man at all!!!) but sometimes we have to let things happen and not try to control it so much…if you feel like someone could be the one than give it a try what could it hurt long as the line of communication is open. anything is possible!
February 16th, 2010 on 5:06 pm
I agree with you Keri. Two weeks is way too soon to be in a relationship especially when you just ended a long-term relationship (3 years) less than 3 weeks before that. Some people just jump right into relationships with in that time frame because they want to feel the comfort of having someone there. Needy people that can not be by themselves for a long period do these kinds of things. All you can do is say good luck and wish them the best.