Back in the day, when it came to dating and relationships, men pursued women.
But in the 21st century, should that still be the case? I’ve heard two different opinions. Some say that women should be more assertive and go after what they want. If we see a guy we’re attracted to or friends with someone and want to take things to the next level, take that chance and “make things happen.”
On the other hand, I’ve been told that women should let the guy approach us. Don’t show too much emotion; don’t act like you care. Let the guy pursue you and make the first move.
So in 2010, what is a girl to do?! No one wants to come off as being pressed and over aggressive, but at the same time, if you sit around and wait for a guy to make the first move, he may never come around. What is the right balance between showing interest without “doing the most??” I’m all about being courted, but if I’m attracted to someone and want to get to know them, etc, should I really have to sit and wait for them to maybe pursue me and show some interest? What if they don’t??? Them I’m out of luck!
The concept of taking either approach sounds easy, but out here in the single world, it’s easier said than done!!! It all depends on the guy. Some guys want women to be assertive and show true interest. Other guys don’t want to feel any pressure and rather pursue a woman on their own terms. That’s another task for us women; figuring out which category the guy we’re attracted to falls under in order to determine which approach is the right one to take.
Again, what is a girl to do??!! ::sigh::
February 14th, 2010 on 6:38 pm
Good post. Definitely a delicate balance. I say u gotta pursue. I think the fear of rejection keeps a lot of people (in this case, women) from pursuing someone. But hey, ladies: it only stings for a bit. Its like getting a shot at the doctors. If he doesn’t feel u like that, take Jay-Z’s advice: on to the next one.