A Diva State of Mind

For as long as I can remember, there’s been some older female role model in my life re-iterating to me that phrase that we’ve all heard a 1000 times.  “Who’s gonna by the cow if they can get the milk for free?” But what seems like an out-dated frame of thinking actually has some validity to it.  I know now days, especially for the 20 to 30 something’s, it’d be an easier task to get the NRA to sign anti-gun legislation than it is to withhold the cookies, especially from a dude that we’re really in to.

  But we have to.

And I’m not coming from a moral stand point – (I mean morality is cool an all) but I’m talking about not relinquishing our power when it comes to relating with men. I think over and over that’s where we go wrong. I mean really how many times have you and your girls dealt with the Houdini’s of the world. You know the ones you hit it off with, have crazy sex with and then they just vanish into thin air after a few weeks of  “dating J”. That’s because after a few rolls in the hay, what started out to be mind altering sex, really just became routine. And we all know what routine is code for –boring.

It’s a fact. Men like to keep it simple. They don’t think like we do and we have to stop convincing ourselves that they do. Men don’t always automatically fall into like with women they sleep with and I don’t believe they walk around trying to turn booty calls into relationships. It’s all about starting how you want to end up. And if you’re out there trying to find more than someone to burn up the sheets with (which in all honestly is exactly what some of us want from time to time), then you have to keep in mind one key thing. The fun for them is trying to capture the flag. If you just stand there holding the flag out for them, yea they’ll run to it, but then they’ll grab it and be ready for the next score. The longer you hold on to your flag, the more time there is for these guys to actually get to know the amazing, irresistible you, and fall for more than what’s  hiding underneath your Victoria’s Secrets…and think about this too. What kind of men are we looking for? Young, successful and driven men, right? Men who have dreams and goals and go out on mission to reach those aspirations right? So what makes you think a man like that is going to want anything less than a challenge when he’s looking for a woman? If you don’t think that’s true, you’re playing yourself.

Now I’m not recommending that you play games. That’s not what this whole thing is about, because in all honesty, playing games leads to far more trouble than it ever does good. I’m just saying, take your time with it. Allow him to actually work for the platinum, and once you’ve developed a little something between the two of you it may just be a little bit harder for him to bounce to the next booty. Give it try, you may just surprise yourself.

~~By Guest Blogger, LB!