A Diva State of Mind

Why is ABC featuring ANOTHER round table discussion about the state of successful, single black women? This discussion has gone on and on and on…Are we expecting a different outcome if we talk about it one more time??

What new information can Sherri Shepard (has she finally stopped talking about her ex),  Jackie Reed (she interrogated her dates on “Let’s Talk About Pep”,  writer/journalist Jimi Izrael and actor/author Hill Harper, who both always have a lot to say about black women and relationships, really give us?.  I”m sure whatever their thoughts and opinions are, I’m sure we’ve heard it all before.

 We all know the statistics. As posted on ABC News Nightline, “According to a recent Yale study, 43 percent of African-American women over the age of 16 have yet to be married, compared to only 23 percent of white women. There’s also a gap in numbers. The 2000 U.S. Census counted 1.8 million more African-American women than black men.”

Now when you look at those numbers, you can’t help but to think DAMN, the odds are against me!!  But instead of dwelling on how there aren’t any black men out there, are we doing all we can to meet eligible men that are out there?

Here is some advice for you single and successful black women out there.  And now that summer is approaching, it’s a great time to meet new people!  

1.   Since there is a shortage of good black men, let’s be more open.  That means, don’t turn down a date if he doesn’t fit your list of 99 qualities you’re looking for in a mate.

2.   Contrary to what some women think, if you’re interested, make a move.  My guy friends tell me they think it’s attractive when a woman asks them out.

3.   Let’s change our face! I know I have a habit of looking mean and unapproachable.  Change your demeanor.  You can still be an assertive, strong willed woman without looking like you’re.

4.   Search outside of the club scene.  Well first of all, if you’re in your mid twenties, you should be attending lounges and not clubs! I’m just sayin…but anyway. This means, you’ll need to find the single black men where they hang out other than Ozios and The Park on the weekend.  Try places like a sports bar or gym

Now I’m sure you’re all wondering, since I’m giving this advice, does that mean I’m in a relationship.  NOPE! I’m still single, but I am taking my own advice and look forward to having a summer filled with meeting new people   

Do you ladies and gents have any other suggestions on how single and successful black women can meet those eligible black bachelors??