I met a guy last year through mutual friends; let’s call him RJ. He was tall, dark and handsome and I can’t deny that we did have what I thought was chemistry. We would see each other at events in the city so it was inevitable that we exchanged information.
Now I have heard from some guys say that they don’t mind if a female takes a little initiative when it comes to approaching them. We’re in our mid/late twenties; that shouldn’t even be an issue, but to some guys it is. Anyway, liking what I saw, I asked RJ out on a few occasions last year and he would either not respond or respond too late.
After a while, I came to my senses and just stopped reaching out all together. I figured, if he was really interested, he would respond or be proactive in trying to hang out. Months passed and I received a text message from RJ suggesting that we hang out and catch up. Thoughts in my head “ummm…I think he meant to text that to someone else.”
To keep the story short, let’s just say after that text message, we talked on the phone quite frequently for a couple weeks getting to know each other and even talked about hanging out, but of course none of that transpired. When it came to hanging out, again he just wasn’t very proactive and I for one do not beg anyone to spend time with me. Either you want to or you don’t.
Similar to the “Where Is The Follow Thru” dilemma, ladies also face the “playing hard to get” dilemma, if that’s what you want to call it. In public, the guy flirts and comes across as interested, but nothing ever goes beyond that. Now that may have been cute in college, but I am grown and I do not have the time or patience for games. You are either interested or you are not. It’s really that simple.
Fellas, do some of you (I refuse to group you all into one category because I know you’re all the same) act this way just to boost your ego? Is it exciting to know that there are women you are interested in you? Why commit to something so small like hanging out if you’re really not interested in doing so?
I guess this is just another case of someone wasting my Verizon text messages and minutes because of course he had Sprint….