Lauren has known Michael for 6 years and they have a great friendship. They each considered the other to be one of their best friends, but after being friends for so many years, Lauren found herself catching feelings; she doesn’t know why, she just did. Now Lauren is the type who does not like catching feelings, especially for friends because it NEVER turns out in her favor. In this case, given the situation, liking one of her best male friends was just not an option and to be honest, feeling this way about Michael made her feel very uncomfortable. Liking him was so wrong!
While she expressed to Michael that she liked him as more than a friend, she realized she was in love with him. She didn’t want to admit it, but the way she felt about him was completely different than she had ever felt about any other guy she liked in the past. Was it possible to be in love with someone you weren’t dating?
Regardless of Lauren’s feelings, being more than friends was not going to work, at least not now, so she finds herself trying to figure out how to get over him. After all, Michael is her friend and someone who she imaged would always be in her life. Would it be selfish of her to end the friendship so that she can move on? Does she remain present in his life, but from a distance, so they can attempt at having a friendship like they did before?
When you’re caught up in the rapture and feel like you’re in love with someone, you feel like they are the one; they are going to be in your life forever. However, in many cases, your first is not your last, so how do you get over your first love? How does one get over a first so they can experience love again? In this case, how does Lauren get over her first so she can be open to receive love and experience what it’s like for someone to love her back?
July 8th, 2011 on 2:08 pm
I think Lauren should be honest with herself and Michael about her feelings. Is the feeling mutual? Even though it might hurt her to find out its not that’s a risk I’d be willing to take if I felt that strongly. As far as ending the friendship that’s hard to say but from experience I know there’s nothing worst than being friends with someone only to find out he/she has “feelings” for you and they were only sticking around to see what could possibly happen. This goes back to the never ending conversation: Can men and women be just friends????
July 28th, 2011 on 9:21 pm
I think time has shown me that my first love should not be my last. What worked for me at a young age doesn’t or wouldn’t anymore. I hope that Lauren feels comfortable with being honest with Michael. Otherwise, the friendship might be strained, and she’ll always wonder: What if?!? What are your thoughts, Diva? xoxo