It’s been four months since I announced my 2012 dating challenge and it’s been 3 months since I’ve given you an update so one is longer overdue!
In the first update, I had mentioned I went on a few dates with a guy. The dates went well, however there wasn’t much chemistry and we mutually stopped making plans for future dates (after our last outing, never one of us called or text). For the rest of the summer, I didn’t go on any dates. I went to a variety of events including a relationship panel/networking/speed dating event (yes it was supposed to be all three in one event). But that ended up being a room full of women with less than ten men in the mix. So let’s just say, I didn’t have the best luck in terms of dating this summer.
But just when I thought I would go the rest of the year “failing” my challenge, I met a guy last month at a restaurant when I ran into mutual friends. We all hung out at the restaurant bar chatting for a while and eventually the guy and I exchanged numbers. Since then, we’ve hung out a few times so we’ll have to see how this goes. There are still three months left in the year, so the challenge is not over yet. That’s plenty of time to hopefully attend at least one speed dating event with my single friends (I want to push them outside of their comfort zone) and continue to attend a variety of events with the opportunity to meet new people.
What I have learned from declaring that I’m challenging myself in terms of dating this year is that my demeanor towards guys and dating in general is a more positive one. I was never one to think “all men are dogs” and I wasn’t ever bitter towards the opposite sex, but I don’t think I came across as receptive to dating in the past as I am now. I truly believe having an open mind and being positive makes meeting new people easier and so much more fun.
For those that are still putting themselves up to the challenge, please give me an update!!
September 25th, 2012 on 9:03 pm
I support you completely… Keep hope alive for all of us! Go boo!
September 26th, 2012 on 12:23 am
Will do! Thanks boo
October 6th, 2012 on 1:18 am
Well, you are definitely doing better than I am. I haven’t been on a date yet this year and there are only three months left. Yikes!! I think my only option is to move from the city I am in because, there are no men left . . . at least with the qualities I want. And I am not asking for much. But from your post with a room full of women and hardly any men at an event I guess there is a good man storage everywhere.
The funny thing though is how you meet someone when you were just out and not focused on meeting someone. I guess that is the way it goes.
October 6th, 2012 on 1:29 pm
Yes it seems there is a shortage everywhere but stay optimist! You never know where or when you may meet someone. In most cases, it is when you least expect it!
October 11th, 2012 on 3:38 pm
yay for you! i think that 3-in-1 speed dating event i was supposed to attend but decided not to go for the reason you stated… there was no guarantee that it was set up equally for there to be enough male and female singles…… =/ i look forward to your next update
October 11th, 2012 on 4:09 pm
Thanks Kia. Yes, had you attended, you would’ve been disappointed. I could count the number of guys there on one hand. Hopefully I’ll have another update before the year is over!