In September I told you I met a guy at a restaurant when I ran into a mutual friend. Well, we dated for a few months but unfortunately things ended a couple weeks ago. Was I disappointed? Yes. But I also understand that all seasons must come to an end, whether it is four months or four years. I know that dating is a process and if I am going to date I will experience many situations that don’t work out before I experience one that does.
This year of the “dating challenge” was an interesting one. It really became less about the dating challenge activities and more about my attitude towards dating. As someone who did not date often in the past, deciding to challenge myself and attempt to have some control over my dating life this year was a big deal. This year was fun and a little emotional but also a learning experience.
Here are a few dating takeaways I gained personally from my own experience and my friend’s dating experience:
1. Being receptive and having a positive attitude makes meeting new people easier and more fun. And it just may increase your chances of meeting someone whether through a friend or at a restaurant.
2. Move on if you don’t feel any chemistry. Life’s too short to waste your time or your date’s time.
3. As much as many of us hate to do it, we’re going to have to take a chance and let our guard down if we’re dating someone we really like. Yes there’s a chance things won’t work out but we’ll never know if we’re always so guarded.
4. Don’t pray for a mate and then sit back and do nothing. You won’t find your future mate by sitting on the couch every night. As Demetria L. Lucas said “Degrees aren’t handed down; they are earned. Promotions don’t just appear; you strategize to get them. Money doesn’t fall from the sky; you work for it. Meeting high-quality men, dating and marrying are not exceptions to the rule.”
I won’t declare a dating challenge for 2013, but do I hope that I will continue to meet new people and date. The New Year equals new opportunities; I am excited to see 2013 has to offer!
What was your dating experience like this year?