Every time I talk to one of my friends, the topic of marriage and kids comes up. She’ll be 28 this year and like me, she is not in a relationship. It seems to really bother her that she’s almost 30, without a husband or kids. I sometimes sit and wonder “damn, is it REALLY THAT BAD that you don’t have either of those things right now?”
Where did this idea of being married and having kids before the age of 30 come from? Do women (and men) fear being consider “old parents?” Has society made us feel like we haven’t accomplished anything if marriage and kids don’t happen at a certain age?
I’ll be 28 in March and personally I don’t feel pressure to be married or have kids right now. Do I want to be in a relationship? Yes. Am I ready to walk down the aisle right now? No. Post graduate school, I don’t think I envisioned myself getting married before 30. And I’m definitely not ready for kids right now. I’m still trying to get my life in order; how can I possibly be responsible for someone else??
I was getting my hair done on Friday and the married lady next to me starting talking about how women these days are so pressed for marriage that often times they settle. PREACH!!! Instead of enjoying single life, dating and waiting to find a mate they will call their best friend, women end up settling just so they can have the title of being someone’s wife. To all of you out there wanting to get married and have kids, please don’t settle!! If you end up not getting married until you’re 30 or 32, that’s ok. That’s better than settling for someone at 28 and not being happy.
Everyone has their own timeline of when they want things to happen in life. Marriage and kids are some of those things we cannot control (if you believe in having children after you’re married). I would hope that while we all pursue living a life of love with a significant other and creating our own families in the future, we don’t feel like we are incomplete or we haven’t accomplished much because those areas are temporarily missing. Let’s have faith that we will receive the desires of our heart when the time is right!
What are your thoughts on marriage and kids? If you’re in your late twenties, do you feel pressured to get married and have kids by a certain age?