A Diva State of Mind

I’ll admit, I do watch ‘Basketball Wives,’ although I feel like I’m losing brain cells every time I do. Let’s just say, unfortunately it’s a guilty pleasure like so many other reality shows. *Shrugs*

In response to angry fans, Tami Roman from Basketball Wives spoke to Sister 2 Sister, stating that fans should be upset with the producers of the show for the foolish behavior that is aired on television:

“I think that the opposition to call for the show to be cancelled will end the employment of several African-American women who have no creative control. Why not call out the people who make the decisions about what is aired. Call out Shed Media. Call out VH1 because I will join that battle. Why call for several people to be unemployed that really have nothing to do with the creative process?”

“I would love to see a season 5 where VH1 and Shed Media are called out to show more positive things that we’re doing and show us how we are 90 percent of the time, instead of how we are 10 percent of the time. I would love to see the brand in and of itself go out on a more positive note.”

First of all, Tami states that cancelling the show would cause them to become unemployed. I really hope ‘Basketball Wives’ isn’t the only stream of income for these women on the show; reality TV does not last forever.  ’Basketball Wives’ may be popular now, but it won’t be forever.

Let’s keep it real, while the producers have creative control over the show, they aren’t responsible for the way the women act on the show.  It doesn’t matter if they only act foolish 10 percent of the time.  Everyone is responsible for their behavior and if they were acting like REAL woman, there wouldn’t be “10 percent” of 35+ year old women fighting to air on national television.   Why does Evelyn want to beat someone down because a girl she doesn’t hang out with talked about her? Why does she care??  Why are women running across tables, literally, because someone said something they didn’t like??  GROW UP!  As much as these women hate taking the blame for their behavior, they need to own up to it. As long as they keep acting foolish, the producers will keep rolling and airing it on TV.

Let ‘Basketball Wives’ teach a lesson on how to NOT communicate. If you have a problem with someone, be an adult and TALK to them about it. Don’t get violent or become a bully, because guess what?  In the real world, you may face consequences (i.e. a law suit). These women are too grown to be acting like animals and should be ashamed of themselves.  No one is to blame for the ratchetness that is seen on ‘Basketball Wives’ except for the women who partake in the behavior.

What do you think of ‘Basketball Wives’? Are the producers to blame for the bad behavior we see EACH week? Would you watch Evelyn and Chad’s show?

By now we have all heard the criticism surrounding Basketball Wives. The show is a hot mess and a horrible representation of how grown women act.  Majority of the criticism received has been by black women who write on sites that cater to a female audience. But have you ever wondered what men really think about the show?

I recently had friends over and for some reason Basketball Wives became the topic of conversation. I asked one of my guy friends, Tim, what he thought about the show.  Let’s just say he didn’t hold back his true feelings:

WTF! is my reaction when I watch the show Basketball Wives. I have a true concern as a brother that love my sisters and I can’t believe what I am seeing on TV.  The show can be broken down into the good, the bad and the ugly:

 The Good: Absolutely nothin! I repeat, Nothin!

The Bad: Everything! Women that have no positives about them .NONE

The Ugly: The women! This show shows that beauty is truly skin deep.

The show should be called Basketball Hoe’s, Jumpoffs, & WannaBe Wives. There is nothing about being a “Wife” that I see on the show!!!!  If these chicks represent what a wife is, I pass!!! Regardless, these women are giving sistas a bad reflection and the show has no value.   I get the whole Reality TV bit, but the true reality is not this crap!

Tell us why you mad son!!! I’m not sure what I was expecting to hear when I asked Tim what he thought about Basketball Wives, but I’m sure I wasn’t expecting a reaction like this one.  Guess guys aren’t a fan of how women black women are being portrayed on VH1 either.

Fellas, what do you all think of Basketball Wives? Do you feel the same way Tim does? Ladies, what do you think of the show?

I have to admit, I sat down and watched the Basketball Wives Reunion Special last night (hanging my head in shame). Now I didn’t set out to watch it because I follow the show consistently; I think I was more interested to see how ridiculous these women were going to act!

I’m still trying to understand why is the show called Basketball Wives. There are only 2 wives on the show. I would think Basketball Ex-Wives, Basketball Girlfriends, or Business Deals, would be more appropriate name.  Maybe? I mean, most of these women aren’t currently dealing with NBA players so how does their life represent the lives of basketball wives?

Well after checking out a few episodes this season, watching these women throw water on each other, debating to save marriages or acting like hoes at a party, I feel sorry for them.   Maybe I don’t understand where they’re coming from because I don’t live in that “world,” but if you’re trying to rid yourself of the groupie/hoe title, why would you enter a contest at a celebrity party and dance like you’re expecting someone to start making it rain on you?? And yes I know, when people start emailing you and threatening you, you must defend yourself and family, but does throwing water really solve your problems? I mean, after seeing that for the third time, it gets old.

Now I’m not exactly sure what Shaunie O’Neal had in mind when she came up with the concept of the show; was she trying to bash cheating basketball players because she’s bitter with her entire Shaq situation?  She should’ve just called the show The Lives of Basketball Ex-Wives!  When I heard Basketball Wives, I was thinking I was going to see another Real Housewives series, only it would’ve been women that were actually married to athletes. Now don’t get me wrong, the Real Housewives women are just as dramatic and foolish, but they seem to still have a lot more going on than just fighting each other.

I’m not sure what’s in store for Season 2, but I’m hoping for something other than ex-wives and girlfriends fighting groupies every weekend (hmmm, that statement made it seem like I plan on watching Season 2).  But then again, it’s a reality show on VH1.  Should I really expect anything more?