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One thing I appreciate and at the same time find entertaining is how candid my male friends can be. I’m not even sure how the conversation came about, but one day my friend Russell and I were talking about him and the various women in his life. I soon learned that guys look at women in numbers; you’re either a #1, #2 or #3. And since my homeboy was so willing to share with me this theory, I asked him to share his theory with all of you. According to Russell, you’re either a #1, #2 or #3. Knowing how guys view you will help explain their behavior towards you.
In my 33 years of life (20 of those years spent dealing with women), I have discovered that there are three types of women. In talking with my friends and cousins over the years, I have realized that a lot of guys share my sentiment. The three types of women are based upon a woman’s ideology in how a man must treat her.
The first aka #1 is “wifey material.” She is a “one and only” woman. When she’s dating a guy, she’ll be the one asking after a couple months “where are things going?” You either want to be with her or you don’t; there is no gray area. If you choose to be with her, you are committing to a monogamous relationship. #1 is the woman a man must work hard to sleep with. She views herself as precious and doesn’t feel that every guy is worth entering her secret garden. Now a lot of men in their twenties and even some in their early thirties may find dealing with this woman too much work. However, she is ultimately the type of woman all men want to marry. She’s the woman that gets taken home to meet momma.
The second aka #2 is the “potential.” This woman embodies a lot of the ideologies of a #1; except being in an exclusive relationship is not as much of a big deal for her. She doesn’t mind just dating with a guy that she likes for a length of time without a clear definition as to where things are going. Normally, one hears the statement, “We’re just friends,” a lot from her concerning a guy that she likes. She tends to be a very patient, understanding girl so she doesn’t require a lot of time like a #1 (this is a bonus for a playa). Depending upon the situation, a #2 will become a #1 and that transition is usually an easy one because for guys, they already know everything about the #2 and genuinely likes her which is why she always remained in the picture.
The third aka #3 is the “jump-off.” Aaahhh!! Forgive me I just had a flashback. What is there to say about a jump-off that we all don’t know? Nothing. Simply put….she is the girl just to keep for a physical relationship. She is used to not communicating regularly with the guy. The only time they communicate is when he wants some or he might shoot her a text every now and then just to keep the lines of communication warm. #3s require minimal time (a playa’s dream come true)…no dates, no long talks on the telephone and she is cool with this, but a guy gets entrance to her not-so-secret garden on the regular!
Now that we all know the three types, I must tell you that there is a caveat. As we all know, there is no definite in life; not every woman is always her normal type. Life situations sometime cause a woman to change her type (usually a brief ideology change). For example, a #1 can act like a #3. This sometimes happens when she has recently ended her relationship, but she allows the physical relationship to continue because: (1) she is comfortable with only her ex (2) its good….keep it real (3) she thinks the relationship can be revived. #1s normally don’t act like #3s for too long (sorry fellas, I wish it wasn’t so too) eventually her dominant ideology will kick in and cause her to end it. Also a #2 can act like a #1 or #3, but again it all depends on the situation.
I know many of you may be thinking, “he isn’t serious?” Believe me he is so serious; we’ve had multiple conversations about the different type of women in his life. I asked my other male friends how they look at women and this view isn’t uncommon. Some even narrow it down to two categories, either she’s wifey material or she’s not (a jump off).
So the question is, what number are you?
