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I Am Not My Hair

I am not my hair I Am Not My HairIn Tuesday night’s episode of Reed Between The Lines, the Reed’s daughter Kaci had a strong desire to change her hairstyle to impress a boy.  Like her mother, Dr. Carla Reed (played by Traci Ellis Ross), Kaci has beautiful natural hair that she wears in curls. She was required to straighten her hair for a play and once it was straight, she mistakenly believed that her straight hair was the only reason the boy she had a crush on started paying her any attention.

Dr. Carla Reed was definitely upset with her daughter’s desire to change her hair. Once you go to the creamy crack, your hair is never the same.  And I am saying this as someone who gets a relaxer every few months.  Natural hair is fabulous!

For decades, there has been a social stigma that natural curly hair is less beautiful than straight hair.  There is also an idea that a curly style represents a certain lifestyle that straight, relaxed hair does not.

I loved this episode because it shed light on a bigger issue than natural hair vs. relaxed hair. It reminded all of us about the importance of self acceptance.  Society has tried to convince us through various forms of entertainment that looking a certain way is right (long straight hair combined with a certain body type).  It’s important as women, that we don’t let what we see in media and hair stereotypes influence what we think about ourselves or the decisions we make in terms of our looks. Women should not feel as though they need to change their hair or any other physical attribute in order to please someone.  Your hair is the way it is for a reason;  you are the way you are for a reason.  Far too often we are so concerned with what others think and we get lost trying to make an impression instead of being comfortable in our own skin.


Have you ever changed or thought about changing a physical attribute to appeal to others?  What advice would you give to women who feel they need to change how they look to impress others?

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Weaveology 101

So I went to Pittsburgh this past weekend for homecoming and had a GREAT time with my PITT family! We always have a good time when we get together.   That weekend, I saw so many people I went to school with 6 years ago! (Time does go by fast). One thing I did notice that seems to be a trend is everyone getting weave.  Now believe me, I understand; we all want to add some length.  I’ve been known to rock the ponytail myself.  BUT, if you are going to rock the weave, ladies ladies ladies, we must pay more attention to what the final product looks like.  IT MUST BE ON POINT!! The purpose of the weave is to look natural, but I think people have forgotten that.

 Weaveology 101

If you are going to rock the weave, here are some things to think about:

1. The weave color should look natural– There is now reason your weave is orange, red, blond if your natural hair color is dark brown.  Come on! And if you decide to get a partial weave, the weave color and your natural hair color should match. A weave should look natural. 

 2. Your weave should move when your head moves – We are too old to use synthetic hair.  If you are going to take the time to get a weave, take the time to invest in one that looks good and natural which means human hair please!

 3. Your weave shouldn’t start 6 inches from your hair line – Do I really need to explain this one?

 4. If you are unsatisfied with the outcome, please let the stylist know – I saw some weaves this weekend that looked frizzy, puffy and not well maintained.   Before you walk out of the salon, make sure it looks the way YOU want it to look b/c you are the one that has to wear it.

5.  Invest in keeping it maintained - Now that you have committed to wearing a weave, you must maintain it! This means washing it frequently and having it tightened if you have a sewn in.  Talk to your stylist about best practices. 

So the next time you decide to get a weave, keep these things in mind.  A weave is an investment and if you want to wear one, you should make that investment!

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