When we were kids in elementary school, we used to exchange Valentine’s Day cards and candy with our classmates. In high school, girls may have walked around with balloons they received from their boyfriends. Under the age of 21, Valentine’s Day was fun and cute.
But once you become an adult, it’s a different ball game (for some).
Over the past few days, I have seen a lot of chatter online about Valentine’s Day. Single women complain about being single on that day. Women in relationships stress about what they should get for their boo. After all, men are more simple creatures when it comes to gifts. Guys scramble to make last minute dinner plans since Valentine’s Day is such a big deal for their lady. I have contributed to the online chatter by writing three blog posts over the past couple years related to the day: 1) Valentine’s Day Ideas: Singles & Couples 2) Valentine’s Day Is Not About The Gift 3) Ask Keri: What Should I Wear For Valentine’s Day?
But when I sit back and think about it, I wonder “why is Valentine’s Day such a big deal?”
Valentine’s Day is not a religious holiday like Easter or Christmas. It’s not a holiday that brings family and friends together under one room to spend precious time together like Thanksgiving. Instead, February 14th has become the one day out of the year where people spend too much money on flowers and candy and stress about giving the perfect romantic gift.
While I understand it is important to show love and appreciation, shouldn’t people be doing that all year? I know I’m different than most; but I much rather have a significant other take me out for a romantic dinner or shower me with roses on a day I’d least expect it. We have been conditioned to think that February 14th is the day that we all must go above and beyond. And if you’re single on that day, well then you might as well go hide under a rock.
Why not switch things up and do special things on a day that has not been so commercialized?
Although I don’t get the hype surrounding Valentine’s Day, I did make plans to hang out with my favorite girlfriends tonight. I mean, if everyone else is going to DO the most on this day, the least we can do is get together and go out for dinner and a movie (weather permitting of course).
If you’re single, don’t beat yourself up over this “holiday.” It’ll pass before you know and we’ll go back to living like we were before Feb 14th. If you’re in a relationship, don’t stress yourself out about finding the “perfect” gift. If anything, use the day to take a break from life and spend time together, especially if your schedules have caused you and your boo to miss having some much needed quality time.
At the end of the day, Valentine’s Day is just another day on the calendar.
*Goes back to eating chocolate and sipping a glass of wine*