Last October I expressed my frustration with dating and asked the question Is There Something Wrong With Me? And while I still believe dating is becoming more difficult, instead of being frustrated or feeling defeated, I’m going to commit myself to doing some things that will (hopefully) increase my chances of meeting guys. I’m not saying I have to find Mr. Right, but I am ready to meet go out on some dates and have fun!
A friend and I were talking a few weeks ago about dating and I came up with the idea to give myself a dating challenge; better late than never right? Contrary to what many people think (specifically my friends), I don’t date often and the warm months aren’t usually filled with meeting new suitors. And I know I’m partially to blame for that so this year I want to be proactive and challenge myself to do things differently.
Over the past couple weeks, I’ve brainstormed challenges that I’m hoping will increase my chances of meeting new people, however I’m also seeking any suggestions you may have not listed below.
2012 Dating Challenge:
Contact Friends For Dates – I was reading ESSENCE and Modern Day Matchmaker Paul Brunson suggested to a single woman (who happens to live in the DC area) to contact three friends with strong social circles with who she shared similar values. As we get older our social circles become smaller so it’s important that we seek new ways to meet new people. To my close friends reading this, expect to hear from in the next few weeks
Diversity Events I Attend – One great thing about having a lifestyle blog is that I’m asked to attend various fashion related events in the city. Other times, many people I know or are familiar with (usually fashion bloggers) host their own fashion events. The only problem: the attendees are mostly women! While I love catching up with blogger friends over drinks at stores in Georgetown or U street, attending ONLY fashion events is not going to increase my chances of meeting new guys. So from this day forward, I challenge myself to diversify the type of events I attend. I love fashion events, but it doesn’t hurt to attend a networking event hosted by a young political group in the city either. Can we say men in suits?! If you looking to expand your dating options this year, I encourage you to do the same!
Attend Speed Dating Events – I attended my first speed dating event a few months ago and surprisingly I had a really good time. While I was a little nervous, I didn’t attend with any expectations. I wanted to try speed dating because it was outside my comfort zone. While I didn’t find a “match” at the event, it did provide a little confidence booth; talking to complete strangers about yourself for 2-5 minutes isn’t THAT bad as long as you have an open mind. Hopefully there will be more in the city this year to attend!
Online Dating – Ok so I’m not 100% sure if I’m ready to sign up for an online dating site. I listed it because some relationship professionals ask clients and dating challenge participants to create online profiles. I know we live in a social media world and the stigma that online dating is a desperate move has disappeared; but there’s something about signing up for a site that still freaks me out just a little bit. Shouldn’t meeting people be more organic (through friends, at events, running errands, etc) than by viewing a profile online? An old boss found her husband through online dating and I know a few friends that signed up online a couple months ago. I discussed online dating when talking to a friend about my challenge on Tuesday (we even researched free sites), so I’m considering it. If someone can convince me that it’s something that I should really do, I just give it a try!
Those are just a few ways I plan on challenging myself this year but I’m sure there are more ways than listed. If you have any suggestions that you believe are HELPFUL, please leave a comment below. I’ll be sure to keep you updated on if any of the challenges listed above actually worked!
If you are interested in giving yourself a dating challenge as well, leave me a comment below. We can make sure we hold each other accountable!!